I love this quote for a number of reasons. Not only is it true in the beauty aspect as it talks about, but for many others as well. This blog post may be a little more harsh and realistic than is usually my style. But I find it extremely important to keep things real. I don’t want to sugar coat anything and set unrealistic expectations.
Anything is possible. You can literally be an astronaut, or a chef and everything in between. You are the only one in control of your life.
“No one has power over you unless you give it to them, you are in control of your life and your choices decide your own fate.” -Unknown
I think a harsh reality need to start happening around us. Nobody but YOU control what happens in your life. How many people do you know that take what other people think of them as a reality? “Oh, they said I’m not good enough, I’m ugly, I’m boring, I’ll never make it as a ——- “
They take those words other people have said and say, yep, they’re right, I am that. They rely on what others think of them as what they must be. And if people think negatively, that’s just how it is and they won’t amount to anything.
HOW WRONG OF A MENTALITY!
Stop letting other people control how you think and what you do. And, stop using it as an excuse to stop chasing your dreams. For example, if you keep relying on others to bring you motivation to go to the gym, you will never last the long term.
What happens when someone motivates you the best they can and it still isn’t good enough? You just aren’t going to go? Going to give up on your dreams? Other people motivating you won’t last, and if you aren’t the reason you get out of bed every morning, nothing will last.
The cycle of getting up and trying and falling back off will never end if you aren’t your own motivator. I promise you there will be days you don’t want to get up, you don’t want to go to the gym and you don’t want to go to work.
However, as harsh as this may sound… you just have to do it. You have to be the one to push yourself out of whatever is hard. There will be days you have to FIGHT your inner dialogue. To literally fight against yourself. To understand that at times you won’t want to do what’s hard, but you can’t talk yourself out of it.
Stop relying on those around you to always lift you up. If you don’t put yourself first, nobody else will. And guess where that will leave you emotionally when you realize nobody cares if you win or lose? You’ll be feeling even worse.
The perfect aha moment will never happen as long as you continue doing what you’ve always done. You just have to get up and put one foot in front of the other until you figure it out. Until you figure out why you’re worth it and never stop!
Changing that inner dialogue day after day, pretty soon you won’t have to say it out loud, it will be thought naturally. And that’s the day that everyone is fighting for. When they look in the mirror and say, “YOU’RE WORTH IT!” You’re worth the long work day, you’re worth the gym time and pushing yourself, you’re worth looking at yourself and seeing just how beautiful you are. You are worth it!
The only thing in your way, is you. Not only do I understand how you are feeling when you listen to everyone around you, but you, but I’ve lived it for a long time too.
In 2017 I had a major life change which brought along depression and horrible anxiety. It controlled me and what others told me at work greatly impacted what I thought of myself. I let those negative thoughts get into my head and it was a never ending cycle of depression and a happy day.
I hit rock bottom and thought that nothing I did worked so why was I still trying. My marriage was hard, my job sucked and my outlook of life and myself was at an all time low.
One day I woke up and realized enough was enough. I was ready to take life by the handlebars and show it exactly where I was going. I got a doctors appointment where I was officially diagnosed with anxiety and depression. As hard as it was to accept, I understood that that was the first step in change.
I took 2 depression pills when I closed the bottle and told myself I never wanted to rely on a pill making me happy and I needed to show up in my own life and do what was needed to turn myself around. It was hard, but taking my control back allowed me to change my mentality easier.
Within a month I had completely shifted and became who I knew I was all along. I showed up in my own life and stopped blaming my problems on those around me.
Here I am a few years later and still with days of depression and anxiety. When those hard moments hit I know exactly what to do. I now have a plan and a step-by-step guide on what works for me.
I am happy. I am in control of my life and I love helping those around me.
It’s time for you to start taking your life by the handlebars. For you to own what needs to change and start the process. You can do anything you want in life. You are capable, strong, well rounded, compassionate, smart and forgiving. And you can do hard things.
I love you all and am here if you need anything.
All my love,
Talesha