Talking to your inner child may seem a bit weird. You may be thinking, “I’m not a child anymore, so how can I talk to her as an adult?” It may surprise you that it’s a very simple thing.
Many therapists use inner child work as a psychotherapeutic concept. Will inner child work be beneficial for you? Talking with your child self can help heal emotional wounds that have been buried over the years.
All of us were at one point, a child. The child you used to be did not just up and leave forever as soon as you became a responsible adult. I’m sure you can think of a few people who act like children still. Storming off when they don’t get their way, only doing things they want to do.
Most of us have at times acted like children, even as an adult. That speeding ticket you got that made your blood boil and throw a temper tantrum. Feeling abandoned over a breakup and wondering how you’ll ever feel safe again.
Some of us act like children all the time if love wasn’t present in our homes growing up. On the outside others see an adult who makes tough decisions, but on the inside is a screaming mad 6 year old who didn’t get “his” way. And now has no trust with anyone around him.
Be kind to your inner child as you work on past experiences. There are multiple ways to communicate with them. If you are big into journaling, journal in your inner child’s voice. What she went through, how she feels and why she feels that way.
Talk to your inner child. Allow her to answer the tough questions like, “Why am I so scared of losing someone I love?” “What caused you to build a wall to protect yourself?” Be patient with yourself as you uncover hard answers. You don’t need to be perfect the first time you do this. Start small then go deeper as you start feeling comfortable.
Talk to an emotional therapist as your inner child. As you allow her to show up and talk without fear of judgment, you will see huge success. The emotional therapist will be able to direct you and help you heal as you uncover wounds.
Meditate to feel in tune with your inner child. It may be difficult to jump straight to talking with your inner child, so if you need more time, try meditating. Allow yourself to be relaxed and comfortable in your own skin.
Becoming grounded and telling your inner child that it’s okay to let things go will help her feel safe. It’s not easy noticing your faults and realizing that improvements need to be made. However, once this is done, the healing that will take place will be incredible.
Weight will be lifted off your shoulder as you release old wounds. I know for me it was a very scary process to admit my faults. I wanted to avoid that I had anything to heal. Once I opened myself up to healing and allowed myself to releasing baggage weighing me down, I instantly felt lighter, happier and had a healthier mindset.
Next Wednesday I will be diving deeper into this. You will learn some questions to ask your inner child, how to be connected with her and how to let go of emotions that are no longer benefiting you.
Until then, get comfortable with your inner child. Feel her. Pay attention to when she comes out and notice triggers for her both positive and negative.
All my love,
Talesha