I love this time of year. Spring is blooming. Flowers are coming out of their buds, green is beginning once again to fill the streets and everything is taking life again.
For me spring is about a time for renewal. A time to re-evaluate our lives and begin anew. It is so refreshing to shift forward along with mother nature.
Have you ever tried to let go or forget about a painful experience but for whatever reason you couldn’t?
I have had many people ask me why they aren’t healing or why it takes so long to change negative patterns. There are many reasons to this but one I am seeing stand out is that we are continuing to live in our victim status.
Dr. Caroline Myss said, “I have since become convinced that when we define ourselves by our wounds, we burden and lose our physical and spiritual energy and open ourselves to the risk of illness.”
I’m not saying that our experiences shouldn’t be talked about. I am saying is that if our trials and struggles are all we are focused on, all we talk about and we begin to make others focus on them too that is living in the victim mentality. We are more than our war stories!
Gandhi once said, “Be the change that you wish to see in the world.”
In Caroline Myss’s book, Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can she says, “We are not meant to stay wounded. We are supposed to move through our tragedies and challenges and to help each other move through the many painful episodes of our lives. By remaining stuck in the power of our wounds, we block our own transformation. We overlook the greater gifts inherent in our wounds- the strength to overcome them and the lessons that we are meant to receive through them.”
I know how hard it is to break out of this cycle. It wasn’t that long ago that someone lovingly pointed out to me that I was defining myself by my trauma. I felt that if I let go of the pain I was also letting go of memories, love and loyalty. I was wrong. When I began letting myself be more than my experiences I found more love, more memories and undeniable loyalty to those who loved me through my pain.
I invite each of you this spring to re-evaluate your life. Look at the experiences you are clinging to that are holding you back from being the happiest you can be. I promise you that you do not need to live unhappily. There is hope, there is peace and there is love offered to us. We only need to be willing to do the work.
If you’d like to let go of limiting beliefs and past hurts contact me for a Reiki session or come to one of my classes. You will feel the power that comes from stepping into your true self.
With Love,
Talesha