We all can improve our marriage, even if it’s already amazing. Sometimes breaking habits can be hard if you are already in a groove in your relationship. I have had my fair share of plateaus in my marriage, but it doesn’t have to be like that forever.
Heres a list I’ve made to help you not become stagnant in your relationship and to continue finding fun ways to spice it up.
- Compliment your partner every single day! Hearing the one you love say something thoughtful gives you a burst of love. If your spouse looks amazing in their comfy clothes, tell them. There doesn’t have to be a special occasion. I love it when Paul looks at me and says, “you look so pretty!” It makes my whole day and I give a compliment in return.
- Surprise them with something they love. It doesn’t have to be big or a lot of money, just something to show you care and are thinking about them. For me, this would be my favorite Swig drink or a romantic book. Paul is a simple man so when I want to surprise him, I tell him to go ahead and watch a T.V show I cannot stand. It’s so fun seeing him laugh and be so happy. Even if I don’t understand the humor, he does and deserves to unwind.
- Hold their hand. In the quiet moments of relaxing after a long day holding hands is a great way to feel close. I always feel so loved and needed when Paul shows his love for me in little moments. Going to the grocery store, cleaning on a Saturday, watching a movie, or cooking dinner. My favorite is when Paul is driving and reaches out for my hand. In the most random moment of driving, he is thinking about me and wants to show me that he loves me.
- Change up the conversation. You don’t always have to talk about things that stress you out. Talk about some funny memes you saw during your day or a random thought you had while working. Switching up the usual conversation of daily stresses eases anxiety and gives you a good laugh.
- Be open. Don’t keep secrets in a relationship. You can be completely open and honest. You have the right to your own privacy, but if something has been weighing you down, opening up will help you release it. Every time I’ve told Paul something I’ve been holding onto I feel as if my marriage is strengthened and I feel so much closer to him.
- Say sorry. As many of you know, I am never wrong. (did you catch my sarcasm?) although us women are always right, it’s important to admit when you aren’t. Apologizing after you’ve said something hurtful, or not opening up to problems is essential in a healthy relationship.
- Go to sleep together. I hate it when Paul stays up longer than me. One of my favorite parts of marriage is falling asleep with the one I love most. I feel comfortable, happy and safe.
- Send a random flirty text during the day. You know when you look down at your phone to quickly check the time and see your spouse has sent you something cute and flirty? It instantly brings a smile on your face and stays the rest of the day through.
- Say thank you to your spouse. Appreciating your partner helps them feel needed and makes them happy knowing they helped you. Something as simple as them taking out the garbage, mowing the lawn, cleaning up dinner. I appreciate them for all they do, and the boomerang will come back around.
- Take your T.V out of the bedroom. This is my favorite advice to anyone. Paul and I’s bedroom feels so warm and inviting because a T.V isn’t allowed. We are able to spend quality time together instead of next to each other watching a show.
Marriage and life are hard enough to add on more stresses than needed. Finding simple ways to make it easier has helped Paul and I out more than anyone will know. We have spent more quality time together. Laughed more than usual and been able to give our kids love and quality time as a family.
Because of all the amazing ideas check back in next week to see my part 2!
All my love,
Talesha