Emotions have a lot to do with how we view our life. Emotional reasoning happens when we assume something is true when in reality it could be the complete opposite. Noticing your emotions is a healthy practice. However doing so without letting it take control, and run a tangent to eventually ruin your day, is key. If you feel your emotions on a deep level, here are ways to handle them and use your emotions in the most productive way.
Think of your emotions are part of your journey, not a permanent way of life: Our thoughts lead us to our emotions. Whether that be good, or bad it can affect our outlook and leave us feeling negative. When you think of a situation that happened in your life, think of it as part of your journey. It’s important to remember that thinking is your mind’s interpretation of the event that happened, not the direct experience that took place. We all have “filters” of our memories. The way we view them from the most traumatic in our upbringing to the happiest. Your emotions may not always be an accurate representation of what is going on, but your filtered view of it. This is one way we can be less emotional in hard situations.
Stop and think before acting: Stop and think before you let yourself in the highest emotional state say something that you may not believe, but simply lashing out from hurt. Our emotional side of our brain is in most instances stronger than our rational side. Give it time for your rational side to kick into gear. Waiting will give you time from doing something you may regret.
Know your weaknesses: Is there anybody past, or present in your life who can always get an emotional reaction from you? When we know and are prepared for this, we are better aware of our limits. If you see this person range in your mind your emotions from a 1-10 scale. If your emotions reach higher than a 7, use the skills best for you to diffuse your emotional response.
Practice emotional detachment: Your emotions don’t control your life. As said previously, your thoughts control how you feel emotionally. Nobody likes hearing the back-seat driver. Learn to tune them out, and be the one in control. You turned the key, you started the car, you are the driver, not them. If you listen to the back-seat driver they become the one in control and you aren’t. Learning to take action without allowing that voice in the back of your head upset and distract you. Remember that those pesky back-seat drivers are passengers, but you are the one with the key and you call your own shots.
Take time: Take time destressing when you start feeling more uptight and irritable. If you’ve been lashing out at people or crying over something silly, it can mean that your emotional cup is full and may need to take a break. Go on a hike, or get a massage to relax your body of all the tension that’s been building up.
The thing that makes us unique from everything else in this world is our emotions. They help us feel alive and connected to those around us. Accept your emotions and learn why they can get carried away sometimes. When we allow ourselves to relax and feel positivity that surrounds us, we are on track to being in the driver’s side of your emotions instead of letting them take control.
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