If I got a penny every time someone said to me, “Positive thinking is the key to success.” I’d be a millionaire! Let me guess, you would be too. Now, I know this thinking may be different than anything been told, but let me explain why.
If you only think positive thoughts, you are denying the hardships life has. By saying, “Everything is great” when in reality it isn’t, you are trapping those negative emotions deep inside of you. Avoiding the fact that your life may not be smooth sailing will only cause more hardships in the long run.
Be truthful with yourself and work through those negative emotions! We not only need positivity, but negativity to be emotionally well-rounded. Think of that one person who is so happy and positive all the time. Do they seem fake to you? Do you enjoy being around someone like that all the time? I know I don’t!
When I was working at a previous job, I felt the pressure to be positive all the time. Before going into work each day, I said my positive affirmations. I wrote down in my journal why the day was going to be great. I then continued to tell myself those same affirmations the rest of the workday. After a couple months of doing it and seeing no change, only to see it worsen, I felt trapped. “What am I doing wrong?” I’d go home and try over and over again the next few days.
My boss came up to me and said “It’s your fault for being so negative that these people are treating you this way. You need to be more positive!” I felt like I had to justify myself and all the good I was doing. By replying, “I’m not a negative person, I laugh way too much, I’m a wishful thinker and I no longer follow negative people on my social media because I don’t need it!”
I went home and continued to ponder on what I needed to change to make my situation better. I tried harder every day and saw no results. Every passing day made me question why the hardship wasn’t going away when I was doing everything I was taught to do.
I decided to get an emotional healing session done to continue working out any “negativity” I was bringing into work. That session I realized all the stress and pain in my life was from my job. Not me being a negative person, not me being a bad person… my job. My boss fed me those lies until I was strong enough to realize it was never going to change.
If I wanted to see positivity back in my life, the only option was to quit my job. No matter how hard you try to be positive, no matter how hard you try to push the truth away, it will always come back. When it does, it comes back with a vengeance.
Allow yourself to feel those negative emotions and then work through them. Dwelling on them isn’t healthy either. But feeling them, and then releasing them is key. Life isn’t perfect for any of us. And it’s not destined to be. You are, however, destined for greatness. Get out of life-sucking, painful situations and find real, pure joy. Amidst the pain, life can bring.
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