I see a problem among women today: believing you answer to other people’s opinions and beliefs,and if you stand up for your own moral beliefs, you may lose an income, be publicly shamed, be denied housing or other freedoms.
I see so much fear in speaking your truths that you deny yourself healthy relationships because you do not want to offend. Recently, I have been reading Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. Something she said pierced my soul, “But what I’ve learned the hard way is you don’t answer to a wide swath of people and their opinions, even if they’re good people, with good opinions.You were made by hand with great love by the God of the universe, and he planted deep inside of you a set of loves and dreams and idiosyncrasies and you can ignore them as long as you want, but they will at some point start yelling. Worse than that, if you ignore them long enough, they will go silent, and that’s the real tragedy.”
This is absolute truth. If you deny yourself the ability to speak, to say your feelings, or to express your worries, it will impact your physical, mental and emotional well-being. And as she stated, worst of all, if you ignore those truths they will turn into silence.
What does this mean for you? It means that the more you bury your truths, ignore, hide or keep them to yourself, the less intuition you receive, which causes you to feel disconnected from your God.
The beauty of all of this is that once you realize whose opinions you’re listening to above your own, it leaves expansion room to begin listening to your own God-given truths.
You get to decide how to live. You get to decide what truths you speak or do not speak. But no one has the power or ability to make you feel guilt over your choices. If you do feel guilt, it is a great alarm clock to let go of people, beliefs, and emotions that no longer serve you.
How do I recommend you do this? Start by writing down the truths you do not speak, the lifestyle choices that wear you down, and the people who stress you out.
Once you have that list, I want you to create another list. Write the life you crave,the people, things, and spoken truths that will help connect you to the people you love most,including yourself.
As you look at your lists, I want you to feel and see how one is filled with love and the other stress. Now go and create steps of how you will begin filling your life with truth. For me, this looks like minimizing things in my home that do not bring peace. Or reading uplifting books. Even creating time in my day for meditation.
Then tell me in the comments 3 things you want to recreate in your life.
Have a happy, blessed day.
With love,
Talesha