When thinking of marriage, it can be hard not to think of all the challenges, and problems that need to be resolved. Marriage is a complex union. When both parts are happy, it is an amazing experience, but when one (or both) is not… we all know how stressful it can be.
Marriage can be referred to as taking on a major project. Such as, remodeling a house. At first, all the bigger issues are tackled. The plumbing, roof, flooring, and wiring.
When those major problems are fixed and running smoothly, you can finally relax. Just as you sit and look over the hard work you’ve accomplished, you notice how old and worn the lights are, the crack in the corner of the room, the paint that clearly needs to be re-done.
Your mind will go crazy. Wondering if you will even have the time it needs. It can be hard to not be negative and be grateful for having a roof over your head. Similarly, in marriage, you will notice things you never saw before. Maybe he/she leaves their toothbrush on the counter messily. Maybe he leaves his work boots in every open space. Maybe she forgets to pick up her clothes in the morning rush.
Only noticing the things that need to be fixed in your marriage is a sure way to being unhappy. But by looking at them in a different light, you can see your marriage in a whole new way. Taking the time to be grateful for where life has taken you–together, and what you’ve accomplished as a team.
By kicking out the comparing and negativity, you are standing up in your own thoughts and saying what is welcome, and what is not. It’s something that takes practice, but every day will become easier. Happy people don’t compare. Happy people don’t wish they lived a different life. They find joy in everyday moments and expand it. They find more to be grateful for.
Think of the first time you knew your significant other was, “the one.” What was that moment like for you? The first time they made you laugh so hard your belly hurt. What was your first kiss like? Did you get instant butterflies?
Take time once a day to find something good that your loved one did. Slowly you will automatically begin to notice without taking the time to think about it. Taking out the trash, making dinner,